Stop It!
I recently came upon a video that made me stop and think. While I
found it to be hilarious, it got me thinking about how I hang on to so
many old stories about myself and how letting go of them can be as
simple as I allow it to be. Before I go on about this any more, take a
look for yourself:
Beliefs and behaviors are habits of thought and action that get
established over time through repetition, yes? So if I’m going to
change them, it’s not really just a matter of stopping the old belief
or behavior but also of replacing it with something more pleasing –
kind of like giving a toy to a baby so they’ll give you the car keys
they’ve been gnawing on. Let’s face it. We do things because they feel
good. At least they start out that way. We’re getting something out of
them, otherwise we wouldn’t do them.
So if we’re going to change them, we need something that feels just
as good or better than what we want to replace. For example, let’s say
I have a belief that I’m not worthy of success. It’s not always there.
I have my ups and downs with this idea. But on one particular day, I’m
feeling really low and this belief is just eating away at me. What can
I do in that moment? I can choose to take a walk. Call a friend. List
all my accomplishments up to this point in my life. I can do a Sound
Clearing Exercise. The point is, I need to do something to counteract
the not-so-great-feeling. Of course, I could choose to wallow in it for
a day or two, but in the end, in order to come back to Who I Really Am,
I need to let go of that belief that is hurtful to me and take an
action that affirms who I am.
One of the mottos of Twelve Steppers everywhere is One Day at a
Time. Changing limiting beliefs and behaviors is accomplished one
moment at a time. While this may seem daunting in the face of truly
addictive beliefs and behaviors, taking actions that support us become
positive habits that really feel good. And they’re infectious. My
husband is big on taking walks to clear his head and now this is
something I do often, myself. He also does this little thing of blowing
on my head when I’m not sure how to resolve something, as if he’s
blowing all the cobwebs away. Not something I’d do with anybody else,
but it’s endearing, all the same.
So instead of just Stopping It, the idea is to keep going, but in a direction that feels better. Even just a little bit. As Abraham-Hicks says, “The better it gets, the better it gets.” In other words, by the Law of Attraction,
the more we focus on something, the more of that thing will come to us.
So it makes sense to learn how to ease out of habits of belief and
behavior that don’t feel good and into ones that do. It’s as simple as
finding thoughts and activities that please us. That’s something easy
to start doing today.
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